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Don’t Let Someone Fall in Love With a Curated Version of Yourself

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How do you do that?

Don’t we curate ourselves all the time, especially in public?

How many of us do NOT have memories of actions, of posts, of prior thoughts or beliefs that we cringe over, despite the fact that we’ve changed and grown and become better over time?

Isn’t marketing all about curating yourself to make yourself and your brand profitable?

Does another person have the right to feel betrayed because you didn’t tell them, but they found out about a dumbass comment you made more than 25 years ago, but you’ve learned things since then?

Is there anywhere in all of human society in which it is perfectly acceptable to be yourself, even if “your true self” violates the accepted norms?

Does anyone know who we really are?

One response to “Don’t Let Someone Fall in Love With a Curated Version of Yourself”

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    Laer D M

    Oh, how I wish you could see the presentation I saw yesterday. I took notes.

    As you do this through your developing years and even as an adult, you begin to accumulate all the characteristics you believe are unaccepted by society inside this dark basement in this house we call your mind. These characteristics are your dark side, or your dark self.

    Do you ever feel like you just want to be fully you?

    You’re sick and tired of being guarded. It’s like you’re hiding something, and sometimes you don’t even know what it is…

    You have this voice in the back of your head, convincing you that you aren’t good enough or that you’re secretly a bad person.

    Maybe you have been living your life as a person you don’t even really recognize as yourself anymore because you are overcompensating the areas your dark self lurks in.  

    Meanwhile, your dark self, locked in the basement, tries to convince you the dark person is who you truly are and the person you act like is fake. 

    Dark-Self Origin  is from suppressing emotions and characteristics instead of unpacking, understanding & dealing with them. 

    You can never get rid of your dark self…you can only temporarily push them into a basement where no one can see them but you.

    We do this because we fear pain. We believe pain is bad.

    Pain is an area for growth.

    Why these certain characteristics?

    Your treasure lies inside your dark self.

    Overcompensating for dark self. Anything that may hint at reinforcing the lie you believe will cause you to become defensive or over-sensitive. You think, “She’s going to think I’m lazy…”

    IDENTIFYING YOUR DARK SELF – PROJECTING

    What do other people do that triggers you?

    Messy, hold you up, complain, late, drive slow, lazy, lust, greed, slow, short-tempered, mean angry, negative, cheap, inconsiderate, selfish

    Names people have called you growing up

    Renovate the Basement

    Process of cleaning out this dark basement, accepting your dark self, utilizing these characteristics as assets that are part of the way God created you.

    This is the restoration of your house, making it whole again, no closed-off, dark, secret basements, no ostracized version of you. 

    Redeeming your relationship with the treasure within your dark self means your dark self will die. 

    That is the goal, but your dark self does not want to die so it will fight you, creating “internal resistance”.

    Name your dark self. What name do you hate the most?

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