November 5 question – When you began writing, what did you imagine your life as a writer would be like? Were you right, or has this experience presented you with some surprises along the way?

If we go back in time to elementary or even high school, I dreamt I would be the next Richard Castle.

Funny how reality doesn’t work like Hollywood.

Obviously, riches and fame have not magically appeared at the first public unveiling of my innate genius, but hey–I still have kids in school, so it’s probably good that I’m still stealthy in the market.

I have definitely encountered a number of surprises along the way–Back in the 1990’s and early 2000’s self publishing was called “vanity publishing” and it was really your only option if you couldn’t sell your idea to a big publishing house. In 2012, that began to change, but it still took me a number of years to learn about the changing market and the why’s and how’s and so on, before I stopped looking down my nose at the idea.

I thought I would be able to wear all the different hats easily, because I’m a smart, independent woman, and I am capable OF ALL THE THINGS.

I am capable, I just didn’t realize how MUCH work would be involved just to get ONE book out into the world. I certainly hadn’t figured on having to have a series 90% finished and published before I started to dump money into marketing.

But we learn, and grow, and still look at Richard Castle’s lifestyle with envy.

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3 responses to “IWSG November 2025”

  1. Jenni Enzor Avatar

    Reality sure isn’t like Hollywood! I always laugh at the movies that portray writers getting their first deal and then becoming overnight successes–or I remember one where the writer’s agent fly out to babysit the kids so he could write. Ha!
    I’m glad you stopped looking your nose down on self-publishing. I have been on a similar journey myself. And congrats for getting your series out in the world!

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  2. Beth Camp Avatar

    Back in 2004, after one small publishing house said they would only consider my historical fiction IF I wrote an 18-page, single-spaced marketing plan, I became a self-published author. Learned a lot. Still writing. Still having fun. Your story reminds me that we ALL need to persevere. Write on!

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  3. lissa Avatar

    We are capable of all things, it’s just that some of us don’t really like doing everything. I certainly don’t. But we live, we learn and hopefully, we get to do what we want without too much stress.

    Have a lovely day.

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